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11
May/2008

Cremation Vs Burial

by GhostlyShadows

It seems more and more people I know are choosing cremation over burial as the way to "dispose" of their remains after death. I understand the cost aspect of this choice. As long as I can remember, my father always said he wanted to be cremated. "I can't afford a plot of land while I'm alive, why would I want one when I'm dead?" he would say when we were growing up and discussing such matters. (Of course that all changed when he retired. He bought a lovely home surrounded by 1 acre of land, which my parents lived on for the past 30 years.)

My Aunt was cremated, my mom was cremated and my Friend Roberta was cremated. It's nice to have the little urn with the ashes as a remembrance, but there is no grave to visit. Nowhere to leave flowers, to sit and talk with our dear departed. And the idea of BURNING is frightening for me. (Of course, the idea of being locked for eternity in a tiny box with 6 feet of dirt layed upon my chest isn't my idea of a peaceful eternity, either.)

My sister-in-law has a great idea for a memorial for my mom. Sometime this summer she said she'd like to get the family together and plant a tree at my parents home, mixing my mom's ashes with the potting soil so she can always be with the home she loved so much.

And what would I like to have happen with my body after I die? I'd like to be launched into space, beyond the gravitational pull of the earth, to float amongst the stars forever. (That will never happen of course, but its my dream)

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From: lemberger

05/12/2008 07:21:40

Some people do both. I've heard of someone who was cremated and then buried. Cremation for the person who has died and then burial for the family, since they were against the cremation in the first place and the give them a "proper" burial (whatever that means).

My family and I planted a tree in honor of my father. It now sits outside my mom's house with a plaque we had made. It's a some sort of flowering tree. I suggested a crab tree would be most appropriate, then my mom hit me.

From: GhostOhio

05/12/2008 05:50:25 My father-in-law was cremated and is sitting on top our our curio in a box. The decision to cremate was a financial one. I think his family miss not having a cemetery plot to go visit. For some reason it's just not the same.

From: ScariMari33

05/11/2008 19:41:29

I would think that the unrestful spirits are only those who would not have chosen cremation when alive. By the same token, someone who wanted to be cremated, but was buried instead might also come back as an unhappy spirit.

But for those of us who prefer it, I think cremation would be the preferred way for our earthly remains to be disposed of.

And don't forget, you can still put the urn in a columbarium at many local cemeteries. This would provide the family and friends a place to come to visit and and honor the deceased.

From: Ken_Deel

05/11/2008 17:36:22

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I think a proper burial is still needed, simply having them on your
mantle is not a proper burial. And there are enough cases I have come
across, without a preconceived notion, that this is true.

I guess I left that hanging. The evidence alone suggest that the result is spirits of unrest (i.e. haunting) from cremation without proper burial.

From: Davtrav

05/11/2008 16:57:42 For me it all depends on where I am at at the time of death and who is there to cope with the disposal of the body. I have insurance for this purpose what they decide to do is up to them. I passed on I dont care if they cremate me or bury me it makes no difference.

From: Ken_Deel

05/11/2008 16:37:27 Yeah, hard enough on the families grieving without a bill to make it harder to coupe. They should offer burial for much cheaper as a charitable act. But as Doctors become Millionaires off of people the pain and suffering of people, I thinking there are always people waiting for their cut when someone is falling ill, or has died.

From: JANE

05/11/2008 15:17:30

THE COST OF A FUNERAL IN NEW YORK CITY IS 6,000 TO START BY TIME THEY GET DONE WITH YOU ITS NEARLY 10,000 DOLLARS I CHOSE CREMATION BECAUSE IT CHEAPER & I CANT SEE STICKING MY FAMILY WITH A BILL LIKE THAT,I ALSO LEFT INSTRUCTIONS WHERE TO SCATTER MY ASHES.ITS HARD ENOUGH WHEN A LOVED ONE DIES WHY ADD A BIG BILL ON TOP OF IT.YOUR NEVER GOING TO FORGET YOUR LOVED ONES IT DOESNT MATTER WHATS DONE WHEN THERE GONE ITS UP TO THE INDIVIDUAL.