I've never been one for writing blogs, or ranting, I normally just keep
things to myself because I'm always afraid of saying something that will
hurt someone's feelings, or saying something that will set someone off in the
wrong direction, or a thousand of other reasons. I'm not one of those people
who enjoys confrontation, arguing for the sake of arguing, or trying to destroy
the dignity of another.

I'll start off by saying that this isn't toward any individual or group,
either on here or another site, but for people in general. I've met some great
people and made many friends on the Internet, some that I've come to know and
trust. I've learned a lot from others in their own experiences and opinions
about things.

Being a paranormal investigator, we open ourselves up to all kinds of
criticism. We need to handle things diplomatically with those who perhaps don't
believe, we have to handle questions with the best of our knowledge or
experience from clients, or those looking for help in some form or another, or
just to the general population. But there are those who need to learn the facts
before they write things on a whim. Please don't judge a person, persons, or
even a group, for something they do, or have done without knowing the facts, or
perhaps trying to learn who that person or group are as human beings first. If
someone feels they just can't go on without saying something, then by all means
do it, but take the time to think about what you're saying first. Think about
how it might make the other person feel, how you're trying to get your point
across to that person. There are those who need to stop adding their altitude
along with their writing, in email, comments, blogs, and so on. No one has to
be mean or nasty when making a point, giving their opinion, or even critiquing
what a person does, or how they do it. Kindness will get a person a lot further and garner them
the respect.

I'm a friendly person, I like to laugh and joke, I love ghost hunting,
talking and learning from others and learning about others, working with the team, who
have all become great friends, working with websites, editing video, doing
graphics, writing novels. I try to help whenever or however I can, if you need
me, then I'm there for you if at all possible. But a person may never know me
or how I am if they come at me with nothing but attitude and meanness, they'll
not get my respect. They will miss out on a potential friend. Maybe they don't
need or want another friend, and that's fine, too. Me, I'll take all the friends
I can get, I don't want to go to the great beyond living a life without
friendships, love, and respect. I'd like to meet up on the other side with the
friends I made and perhaps discuss how wrong we were in our assumptions, or how
right we were. "Hey, remember when we thought orbs were just dust in our photos?
Damn, who knew we'd be considered as dust one day."

I've seen so much going on behind the scenes, especially in the paranormal
community, and it hurts my heart to see it. There are times when I think we're
starting to sound like a bunch of gangs from across the country in one big turf
war. I've heard things about where one group will join another for an
investigation, only to turn around and start bashing them for the way they do
things. I've seen several groups in the same area battle against each other for
their "turf". I've seen groups who fight against each other to be the ones who
end up in the newspaper, or on the news, or whatever. What happen to respect?
What happened to the reasons most of us started doing this in the first
place? And hopefully that reason wasn't to become famous, or get rich, but
if fame and fortune somehow dropped in your lap, then good for you, but I hope
you keep your integrity, I hope you'll remember that you're not only
representing yourself, but the paranormal community as a whole. All groups
should work together, not against one another. Everyone does things differently,
everyone has their own opinions about things, everyone handles their cases in
their own way, so instead of bashing someone for their way of things, learn from
each other. Every one has something they can teach to some one else, and every
one can learn from that other person or group. There's enough war in this world
without adding our own. We should all try and set a better example.